Failed or Failure?
It is far too easy to make the journey from "I have failed!" to "I am a failure". And the journey back is far too long and difficult! "I have failed" is an event. Single events can happen too easily, and they can be caused by a poor decision, a character flaw, or a momentary weakness. Other times, a failing is outside our own control. A "poor decision" would usually be the result of a lack of information. Sometimes we make these poor decisions because we didn't fully think through the situation. Sometimes it's because information wasn't available. Sometimes it's because we just got into a rush and acted based on what we knew at the moment, instead of waiting to have better information. I have lumped a few things under "character flaw", but this is basically a case where we acted consistent with our normal tendencies. I know someone who will often speak without thinking, and then blame it on, "I don't have a filt...